Hi guys, how have you been? I totally missed you too, its been so long!! First let me start by saying thank you very much for all those who sent their condolences after the death of my mum. The emails I received from readers of this blog alone were so many I couldn’t reply all of them. If I didn’t reply your email, please do know that I read it (I actually read EVERYONE of them to be honest) , and my heart said a prayer for you along with a thank you. Thanks for the calls, texts and some even sent condolence cards to my office .. lol. I received about 16 condolence cards and notes from some of my blog readers(Most from the Obafemi Awolowo University ) . Thank you!
So first things first, before I get to the real spice could someone please tell me what has been happening to Chelsea?? I mean, has Jose Mourinho suddenly lost every sense of winning? Or chill, did he come to Nigeria? Maybe he talked anyhow (As usual)… then she got angry……then did the naija thing to his winning abilities in the middle of okija forest!! Now that’s the only excuse that is not only acceptable but imaginable. You know Jose always has a comment on every match and everything.. As in can you imagine this:
Really??!!!! Now, this is a perfect example of someone who needs to pray! He needs to brake the yoke fast and stop destroying people’s marital homes abeg. Does he know how many marrages he has broken from his losing streak? Well I have no business with them chelsea people afterall..I think he needs to watch more of Arsene Wenger’s games(maybe live) with a book and paper in his hands, patiently jotting down how to win football matches. .. lol.. Did I tell you I watch football now?? Yes and guess my team?? The first 2 people to get it corrrectly will get an mtn recharge card worth N1000 mailed to their emails lol. It’s a promise.That my own way of celebrating my convocation for all my readers.
Yea that..lol.. Yes I am done with the university now! I am a graduate! And I really thank God for that. I remember my matric day really clearly ..lol . You know, I didn’t really get to snap pictures on my matric day and I cant remember why anyway but then I went to fetch this matric picture from the dungeon just to compare with my convocation picture. By the way, I didn’t even snap any personal picture sef.. Check them out anyway!
The one on the left was taken on my matriculation day (JEEZ!! I looked sooo…… ha! ) and that young handsome good friend of mine Toyosi Oyekan who also happens to be the nicest guy I know in my entire life was one of the few friends I had then. We took a picture together during our final year dinner (you could see that on my ig @oseigajoel) if you like. Now the young handsome man on the right!! That’s me 😀 ! On my graduation. Lemme show you one more.
(lmao.. Tolani my brother, pardon me for showing your 100 level nakedness on my blog) So, that’s my friend who has actually grown into a brother; Tolani and we go way back. We met in 100level and we have been really good friends since then. Anyway, whats my point?? The pictures and all? People change! Situations Change! Not only does time heal things, time changes all things! Lets make a quick comparism between how handsome I was in my 100 level and now. Not like I am some sort of Chris Brown or something but on a scale of Segun Arinze to Brad Pitt, I think I will fall on a Idris Elba (We actually look alike..) ! Lol.. let me share this with you about time.
I had just finished speaking about God’s love and his promise of peace at a bible study breakfast some years ago when a young lady walked up to me. She spoke about how hard she had been finding life and how she had been unable to neither sleep nor control her temper ever since she lost her parents during a robbery attack the previous holiday. She spoke about how she had to use sleeping pills every night and how she always kept dreaming and thinking about the events that happened that night. As she kept talking, she began to cry. At that point, I really felt her pain because I could only imagine how life had been for her since the incidence and how horrible it must feel to be able to take drugs bfore she could sleep. When I asked her what she had done about the whole situation apart form using drugs, she said she had prayed and expected “time to heal it” all. At that point, I began to explain to her that The fact that maybe time doesn’t just change all things, heal all wounds and clear most memories on its own afterall. Its like saying “ just sit back and in no time you’ll no longer have the sadness , anguish, guilt, anger and the fear you are feeling now. They will fade away and you will be fine”. Wow! What an intresting concept! .. lets think of it this way; why doesn’t the concept apply to all other parts of our lives afterall if you want to be rich, you have to get a job. If you want to stay in your own house, you have to either buy one or build one. Even if you want to win a lottery, you have to buy the ticket first. (The words in italics are the actions take to achieve the goals set. ). I spent quiet a lot of time encouraging her and then I asked her to go see a doctor. She did, she enroled in a group theraphy of some sort in the hospital and in no time she totally recovered and was able to live her life again. The next time she saw me, I felt so happy with myself after she hugged me and started speaking about how her life had changed since the last time we had met. Now my pont is this; Time doesn’t heal all wounds,but what you do with time is what does the healing.
Let me also share this with you. After my mother died, though I didn’t place how I felt on my forehead, I felt totally crushed. For about three nights straight, I didn’t sleep, not because I didn’t feel like but because I couldn’t. I began to bury myself in my CCNA books and the academic papers I was writing for a journal. It felt totally weird and extremly sad. When I decovered the enviroment wasn’t helping me because I was gradually becoming very depressed and angry, I left home for a while and went to work. I tried as much as possible to never be alone at any point in time and after some time, I gradually began to understand the fact that my mother wasn’t going to come back to life and my depression wasn’t helping matters, I made an intentional decision to stay cool headed and refuse to be sad no matter what. Now that was the first step, it was an action I took. I leant all weird and sad momments are for a while also. There is a huge difference between how I felt the night my mother died, the evening of the wake keep, the day of the burial, the week that followed it, my convocation day and how I feel right now.
Now don’t forget the point I am trying to make about time, time doesn’t change all things but what we do with time heals even the deepest of emotional injuries.
Back to my gist, so after my final exams, this was exactly how I thought lifeafter school was going to be like:
LMAO.. am I a joker!! If I hear!! Freeman ko, slave ni!! The shii is still the same lol… Unless maybe i have another home outside..
Finally, that reminds me, so I found this somewhere on the internet last week! I mean what exactly is our world turning into?? Really??!! In a way, I feel it is super cool tho:
Now, that caption could have never been better! “What a time to be Alive” indeed! Really?? You ladies had better grab if asap before it leaves the market.. cus you know you definatly need it! ! sorry for any mistakes in my spelling or diction, I don’t ever proofrread my work. So you guys should enjoy yourselves, and remember to always be happy because happy people are the most wonderful people. Follow @joeloseiga.